It is well with my soul

It is well with my soul

Sunday, October 26, 2014

Reflections On Being Mormon


Reflections On Being Mormon

This post is not meant to be “preachy.” In fact, that is the last thing I want it to be. Instead, I hope this post will be mainly two things: 1) informative, and 2) an invitation to anyone who wants to learn more. I’m a Mormon, and Mormons believe in sharing their religion with others. If you haven’t already noticed, Mormons are always sending missionaries all over the world, posting videos affectionately called Mormon Messages, and inviting their loved ones to listen to what we believe. Sharing my beliefs with others is not just a gospel duty, though; it’s something I sincerely want to do. But as a member of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, I face the sometimes-daunting task of sharing something I believe with all the conviction of my soul—without being preachy. This post is an attempt to do that. 

My belief in and devotion to my religion runs so deep that I put off school, dating, and everything else for two years to teach people in Japan about Jesus Christ. There were many days spent on the streets and doorsteps of Japan sharing my faith in Christ with complete strangers. You would think that after an experience like that, any hesitancy to share my beliefs would be long gone, but it’s not. I still get nervous to invite people, especially friends and family, to learn about my Church. In my mind, it seems absurd that I would feel that way.  I mean, it’s not that I don’t believe what I am offering to others. But the nervousness doesn’t stem from doubt about what I am sharing; it stems from feeling inadequate in my ability to share it the right way.



So what makes it sometimes difficult to share my religion in the right way? Mormons believe that their church, the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, is the only true church upon the face of the earth. We not only believe that to be true, we say that we “know” it. I know how that may come across to certain people reading this post, but before you peg me as a zealot and exit out of my blog, I hope you’ll give me a chance to explain. There’s a genuine motivation and feeling behind writing something so brash on a subject as sensitive as religion.

I hope this post can embody the sensitivity that religion deserves and express my beliefs in the right way. What is the right way to share it? I think it’s unequivocal but respectful, bold but not overbearing. Charles Malik described it well when he defined a great leader as being “polite” but “never toning down the truth just to please others.” But still, with a claim like being the only true church upon the face of the earth, you can probably see why a Mormon who has family and friends not of his faith might worry about coming across as arrogant, fanatical, or extreme. This is especially true when I know those family members and friends to have exemplary families, generous hearts, and genuine faith in God. That is why I need to be clear that my belief that there is only one true church (Ephesians 4:5) does not equate to a belief that all other churches and religions are bad or insignificant. Quite to the contrary, I have heart-felt respect for other religions and Christian sects and believe in the good they both teach and perform. 

In fact, it is not a matter of good or bad, right or wrong. For me, it is a matter of complete or incomplete. My membership in The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints has helped me “come to the knowledge of [my] Redeemer and the very points of his doctrine, that [I] may know how to come unto him” (1 Nephi 15:14). The more I experience the completeness of Christ’s doctrine, as contained in His church, the more I experience the incredible love and care He has for me; the more complete I feel as a human being. So what are some of the doctrines that allow me to feel that way? That’s what I really want to share with you.

God has revealed His plan for us, giving us perspective and purpose.

Those that know me well know that I despise doing things without knowing why I am doing them. I can’t imagine trying to go through life without knowing the real reason for why we are even here, why we are even alive. But within the teachings of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, I find divine knowledge about the plan for our lives, including where we were before we were born, why we are here on Earth, and where we will go once we die. I love having this knowledge! It allows me to know what it takes to be truly successful—not in terms of salary figures or fame but in terms of peace and performing God’s will. It helps me know what really matters and what is not really worth my time. It gives me hope by telling me what I need to do when I feel like my choices have set me on an unwanted course. It allows me to avoid getting stuck in life and continually progress. It helps me feel complete.

God speaks to us today through living prophets.

Another way my beliefs help me find success is through living prophets—people who commune with God and have divine authority to teach His words (Amos 3:7; Hebrews 5:4). At my age, I am trying to make a lot of important decisions in my life: What should I study? What career should I pursue? How am I going to make a real difference in the world? Who do I want to go through life with? Once I find someone I love, how will I build a happy and successful family with that person? With how many decisions I have to make and how complex the world has become, it is hard to always know what will keep me on a path to happiness and peace. But this is exactly why God has given us prophets along with the plan for our lives—as the world gets more and more confusing, prophets tell us what we need to do to stay close to God and remain on the path of joy. The prophet today is a man named Thomas S. Monson. With him, there is a quorum of twelve Apostles that guide the Church, just like when Christ was on the earth. Even in the toughest circumstances and decisions I’ve had to face in my life so far, I have found tremendous happiness as I’ve followed the counsel of these servants of God. In an increasingly fragmented world, the direction I receive from prophets today helps me maintain my feeling of completeness.

The prophet, Thomas S. Monson (center) and his two counselors, who are apostles of Jesus Christ

           God has given these prophets divine power to seal our families together forever, come                  what may.

Ever since I was a little boy, I’ve dreamed of having my own happy family. Because of that, I’ve been preparing all my life to be a faithful husband and a loving father. Out of all the things I want to accomplish and become in my life, being a husband and father reigns supreme. However, as much as this dream is an important motivator for me, it also constitutes the grounds for one of my greatest fears: losing those I love to death. The worst part about this fear is that it is inevitable. Everyone dies. But that’s exactly why I love being a Mormon. The divine authority living prophets in the LDS church hold is also the authority of God to seal things on earth and in heaven (Matthew 16:19). When two people are married, or “sealed,” by this authority, their relationship is bound in a way where even death itself cannot destroy it. Where man’s authority can only pronounce us man and wife “till death do us part,” God’s authority can bind us not just for time but also for eternity. That means that my family will be mine and I will be theirs, not only until death but even after we die. In every sense, we will have become an eternal family, never to be separated because of the authoritative sealing upon our relationships.

That tastes good to me. It’s consistent with how powerfully we love each other. I don’t think I could whole-heartedly believe in a religion or a God that doesn’t teach that I could be with those I love beyond death, for my love itself seems to imply it. Because of the authority given to prophets in this Church, I know that we don’t come to earth and spend our lives loving those closest to us only to have them stripped away from us when we die. This knowledge, while possessing no guarantee that death will not come to my family, does give me sufficient hope and courage to love deeply; it gives me courage to love completely. 



These doctrines may be unfamiliar to you. They may be something you already believe. Whatever the case may be, I know that they are true. I have asked God in prayer if these things are true and He has given me a personal witness that they are. Everything good we desire as human beings and as children of God can be found in Christ’s restored church, The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints. The peace, hope, forgiveness, and love I have received from knowing the “very points” of Christ’s doctrine has allowed me to come to know my Savior in powerful, intimate ways. It has allowed me to feel truly complete. That is why I’m a Mormon. That is why I want to share what I believe with those I love. I apologize if I shared anything I believe in a way that was offensive to you. That was not my intent. I must admit that even after spending hours working on writing this post, I still feel it impossible to adequately express things rooted so deeply in my heart. Thank you, however, for allowing me to try. If you have questions or are interested in learning more about what I believe, I hope you will reach out to me. You can also check out mormon.org, if you’d like.

            Also, here’s a great talk from one of our church leaders to people not of our faith: https://www.lds.org/general-conference/2014/10/come-and-see?lang=eng


2 comments:

  1. What a great, sensitive post! Thanks for being the same great example today as you were in high school Jamie! I look up to you so much! -Katie Wade-Neser

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  2. This was really powerful. It takes a lot of courage to share something so personal in the online environment. Thank you. You inspire me to do the same.

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